Mom

My Mom...my rock, my best friend, my roomie, and my other (same, originator) half. We share looks, most views, jobs, and a love of Marcus McCoy Liewer...my sisters baby boy.

DAD

I was 19 when my Dad got sick and died. He found out he had lung cancer and within a week he had a lumpectomy, which is a proceedure where part or the whole of a lung is removed. He got infection after infection and his lungs weren't infusing enough oxygen to his bloodstream. He was slowly getting better and was infection free for a while but overnight he got a staph infection and by the next day, Halloween actually, he died in the afternoon.
This event has changed my view of the medical profession (how they rushed him to surgery knowing how weak his lungs already were from a previous and still unidentified infection gotten in the hospital years earlier..rather than try chemotherapy or radiation), hospitals (after viewing how dirty an ICU room is left you would too), and my whole life and how I relate to people and how I view father/daughter relationships.
My father was a country boy born and bred, but he was a genius with computers and programming them. He could sit and write a program in his head, and debug it on paper. He was an epileptic and shortly after I was born then changed his meds. When you change siezure meds they flush all the previous medication from you before starting you on the other and so he was having hundreds of siezures a day due to being unmedicated and I was told that those siezures took away so much of his intelligence.
I loved my father very much I just wish I'd been a better daughter to him and tried to meet him half way in our relationship. But I was a teenaged girl and didn't feel that he could understand me. So I give this advice to girls and young women, if you love you father and could have a closer relationship with him if you could ignore the feeling that he won't 'get' you..try to ignore it and bond with him, because you don't know when you'll lose him and believe me, you'll regret it forever.